Comments on: The Illusion of Control

By: Need Some Balance? | TechnoEarthMama

Need Some Balance? | TechnoEarthMama — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 03:55:37 +0000

[...] Fellow Portlander Katy Wolk-Stanley recently noted that control is an illusion. [...]

By: Tracy Balazy

Tracy Balazy — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 17:49:42 +0000

Thank you, Katy, and everyone who posted comments, for the reminder that we shouldn’t beat ourselves up when things don’t go as planned. I tend to lose sight of that!

By: Michael Yanakiev

Michael Yanakiev — Tue, 06 Apr 2010 11:00:36 +0000

Hey Nadia,
I am so close to your understanding and feeling of the issues. I seemed to care more about control in the near past,when I thought that somehow I have a grasp on everything. Now I can say that I know
something, next to nothing, but it feels more real. Maybe this is natural.
We tend to forget, that when we think that time has stopped for us,
we forget that we are standing on the shoulders of the giants of humanity. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, We see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, Are the ones who do.

By: Sense of Home

Sense of Home — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 02:08:46 +0000

Sounds like you had a great day, took everything in stride with a laugh. Some days I suffer from the same syndrome, if I can handle it as well as you did I feel good. It does seem to be cyclical for me.

By: Tina

Tina — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 13:17:55 +0000

Come on menopause, I am ready for you!!! I totally agree with Lorene….wonderful story.

By: oldboyscout2

oldboyscout2 — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 09:27:42 +0000

Control. Huh? Agreed ,we do have less than we think . People JUST don’t act as we want. Love could be called a lack of control. BUT we can have , if we plan, fall-back positions for when control fails. Some thoughts about easier default landings : insurance, cash for six months expenses, pre-nuptial contract , cell-phone, credit cards , first aid training, can of bear spray and extra keys everywhere.

By: Lorene

Lorene — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 02:40:54 +0000

The ovary story is great — an unexpected gift!

By: Lorene

Lorene — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 02:38:34 +0000

I can plan my day and do my best, but the minute I think I can CONTROL things, situations, or people… ha! … the joke is on me. Giving up control feels like a deep, nourishing breath of fresh air. My shoulders drop, a smile creeps onto my face, and I actually can live in the precious moment. That is where I want to be.

By: connie

connie — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 01:25:47 +0000

Control seems to be something I crave when I enter the unknown. Whether it be a new location, experience, relationships, work– my want of control = my real (or not so real) fear in my head.
I love my 40′s because I can now just sit with myself and remind myself that it’s okay to be vulnerable and not have all the answers (control).
I swallow hard sometimes, breathe deep, and wait for another’s suggestions. I am really quite boring if my “to do list” doesn’t blow up now and then.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 01:15:49 +0000

I have a problem with needing to do things efficiently. Like loading the dishwasher while I’m cooking dinner. Usually this works OK but occasionally I don’t have enough focus on one thing so something goes wrong, the dinner burns, I knock something over, etc. I have a really hard time taking it easy and not multitasking. It sometimes frustrating for people around me because I get annoyed when they don’t multitask. I’m trying to learn to let go and realize that it’s more important that things get done than get done the way I want them done.