I’ve written a fair amount about happiness. Gretchen Rubin’s book, The Happiness Project was a huge inspiration to me and I already considered myself a fairly happy person to begin with. But what about when you just want to wallow in an old fashioned bad mood funk?
Is is acceptable to not be happy?
I do worry that the new focus on happiness is placing a unreasonable pressure on women to be happy at all times. Yes women. Not only do we have to do all that we do, but we need to have a smile plastered across our faces while we’re at it.
Doing dishes? Make sure to enjoy the task.
This is bouncing around in my head today because I had a really crappy day at work yesterday. I came home and immediately had to run the kids across town to soccer and martial arts. This wasn’t all that bad, but I was tired and just wanted to put my head down on a pillow. The evening entailed catching up on the latest episodes of Entourage and Mad Man, but somehow it just didn’t do the trick. I was grumpy, short tempered and it was probably a good idea to give me some elbow room.
I guess what I’m asking is this, is it acceptable to hunker down into a bad mood? Should a person employ all the traditional tricks to stay happy, (sing songs, write gratitude lists, bask in the glow of a perfectly organized closet) or should we accept the mood in order to get through it?
I feel that all emotions need to be experienced in order to move past them. If we bottle up the negative emotions in an effort to be happy at all times, then we’ll eventually implode. Of course, occasional bad moods are an entirely different beast from true depression, which I won’t even attempt to cover in a short quippy column.
I’m feeling better today. I got to sleep in a little bit, and although my house is a revolting mess, I do have a few kid free hours to deal with it. But if I had plastered that smile onto my face yesterday, I would probably still be wallowing in that funk.
Agree, disagree? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below.
“Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without”