Am I Simple or Lazy?

by Katy on May 16, 2009 · 20 comments

Birthday

Have you ever noticed how some people possess the knack of making everything a more complicated than it needs to be?

Their dinner parties involve 16 separate dishes and time spent together requires a nap afterward?

I like to think that I am someone who takes the complicated and makes it simple. My beauty routine involves a shower, toothpaste and a hairbrush, and my dinner parties involve straightforward but tasty foodstuff.

Today is my younger son’s 11th  birthday party. It’s a sleepover with four invited boys, and we’ll be going to a second run movie, making our own pizzas, (I par-baked the crusts this morning) eating cupcakes, and generally creating some raucous mayhem. Party favors will be comic books from Free Comic Book Day a few weeks back.

There will no backyard bounce house, elaborate games or expensive store bought cake. 

Some of this mindset is born of a desire to not get too stressed and worked up, and part of it is laziness, pure and simple.

However you choose to label it, I am well rested, calm and ready for the onslaught of pre-teen boys.

Wish me luck!

Katy Wolk-Stanley

“Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.”

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I receive frequent questions from readers, and as helpful as I think my answers are, (so-so) it’s your answers that always knock my socks off. So here are a couple more questions for you to tackle.

From Gila, who is parenting a finicky three-year-old boy:

I have boxes and boxes of hand-me-down clothing, but my 3-year old refuses to wear them, because he only wants “locomotive shirts” and “soft pants”. and I can’t find those at the second-hand store. so before I go on a baby-gap shopping spree (anything to prevent these 45-minute morning tantrums!), I thought I’d ask you 🙂 thoughts?

My advice to Gila would be to take a deep breath and let her son wear the clothes he likes. Little kids have very few aspects of their life that they get to control, and clothing options are a pretty innocuous area. I would not recommend that she go on an expensive shopping spree in order to provide her son with an entirely “locomotive shirt and soft pants” wardrobe, but to let him choose from what she already has, even if that means repeating the same few outfits over and over.

Another strategy would be to let friends and family members know about her son’s clothing taste, and let them choose train shirts, (and soft pants) as birthday and holiday presents. Grandparents usually want to buy gifts that that cater to the child’s particular tastes, and enjoy finding just the perfect thing.

This time of life passes all too quickly, and he’ll soon grow into other clothing styles. Give him a snuggle and let him make his own choices.

This question is from Erica, who works part time in addition to parenting busy twin toddlers:

I’ve really been enjoying the NCA and I have a few questions for you. With this economy, we’ve completely revamped our budget (something we should have done a long time ago…)

Anyway, I’m curious – how much do you allot for your monthly grocery budget? I am EXTREMELY frugal – a super couponer/bargain hunter/stocker-upper and I feel like prices are still so high!

On average, we spend around $600-700/month. I’ve had to cut out organics in a lot of areas (milk – 4 gallons/week, grapes – 5 lbs/week, bananas 5 lbs/week, bread 2 loaves/week, etc)

Also, it’s such a pain to go to 3 different stores, but Trader Joe’s doesn’t have everything I need, Safeway has some great bargains I stock up on, and then I go to Costsco for bulk items about once a month.

Any tips from the Master Frugalista???

Erica,

I don’t have a specific budget for food, but my family of four is spending approximately $450 per month on food. This includes work/school lunches, meals eaten out and groceries. I would like to be spending less, but this number seems to stay about the same every month. Keep in mind, my 11 and 13-year-old sons eat as much, if not more than the adults in my household!

I do use coupons, but it is almost exclusively for things like $10 off $50 at Safeway, loss leader items at Fred Meyer like butter and eggs, and cereal, (I’m a Raisin Bran enthusiast.) We also shop at Trader Joes’ for a few items like edamame, bleu cheese, and toilet paper, and Costco for yeast, chicken and coffee. This may sound like we’re driving all over town for our groceries, but we try and buy in bulk so that we can make the trips as infrequent as possible.

I’m very flexible about what kind of fruit I buy. With the exception of bananas, which my husband likes to always have in the house, I’ll buy whichever fruit is on sale that week. Yes, I like grapes, but I only buy them when they’re less than $1 per pound. The same (buy only when on sale) goes for apples, oranges and berries.

I go to Safeway for the bulk of our groceries about one-and-a-half times per week, Fred Meyer every 2-3 weeks; and Trader Joe’s and Costco monthly. Except for Costco, all these stores are pretty close to the house.

I rarely buy prepackaged convenience food, and cook almost entirely from scratch. This may sound overwhelming, but it’s really not. The meals I cook are pretty darned basic, and don’t enter the rotation unless they’re easy to prepare, inexpensive, healthy and tasty. I will occasionally double recipes and throw the extra meal in the freezer to allow for a busy day. I don’t have a freestanding freezer, which would allow for more of this.

And of course, we do our best to eat our leftovers!

We don’t buy organic food for the most part. I know that I should, but budget is a strong motivator at this point in our lives.

So:

  • Use coupons, but only for food you would have bought anyway.
  • Shop the different stores, but buy enough so you can hit them infrequently.
  • Cook from scratch, but keep meals simple.
  • Only buy the sale fruit.
  • Eat your leftovers.

 

What advice do you have for Gila and Erica? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below.

Katy Wolk-Stanley

“Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.”

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Coop du Jour

by Katy on May 14, 2009 · 42 comments

Eggs

If there’s anything that defines the pinnacle of hipness that is Portland, Oregon circa 2009, it’s the backyard chicken coop. (Portland allows three hens, no more and absolutely no roosters, thank god!)

My friends Lise and Sasha are energetic chicken enthusiasts, and are always quick to interrogate me on my baffling lack of a backyard hennery:

“You know, chickens are really easy to take care of . . . I don’t understand why you don’t have any? You really should get some!”

Sascha’s chickens are ensconsed in a fairly straightforward coop that actually sits on her front lawn, while Lise’s backyard coop not only encompasses a bicycle storage area, but an elaborate rainwater runoff system. And both keep my poultry lust at bay with occasional fresh egg deliveries.

But today I was honored to visit the most elaborate and unique coop thus far. My mother and I were visiting her friend Deb, who was unloading a good-as-new queen-size mattress and boxspring set. We had driven my mother’s honkin’ huge truck across town to haul away the set, and were given a tour of her elaborately landscaped garden.

Alongside her darling cobblestone patio was a unusual round metal gazebo, sporting an almost pagoda-like roof. 

Wait a minute! What’s that clucking noise?!

Nope, not a gazebo, an elegant chicken coop! 

Deb explained that the coop was actually a massive parrot cage that had been laying about unused on her friend’s property. With the addition of a makeshift roosting area constructed from glass paneled doors, it easily became the perfect chicken coop!

Allowing me to hold a chicken while handing still warm eggs to my mother charmed us both.

It was so cool looking, not Clampett-ey at all!

My backyard is semi-dominated by a 12-foot square tree house/platform that would be very easy to convert into a chicken coop. I’ve held off thus far as other projects have filled my dance card, but I’m thinking I now have motive, (true inspiration) and opportunity, (other backyard projects are just about completed.)

So I’m not sure if I can convince my husband to take on another project, but I’m definitely thinking about jumping on the uber-hip chicken bandwagon.

I’m sure both Lise and Sascha would approve.

Do you have chickens or did you grow up with them? Please share your stories in the comments section below.

Katy Wolk-Stanley

“Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.”

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Etiquette for the Non-Consumer Set

by Katy on May 13, 2009 · 5 comments

Emily Post

I love books.

Big books, little books and most everything in between. But I’m able to mostly able to satisfy this craving with my handy-dandy library card.

But there are a few books I must own for myself:

I picked this massive book up at a thrift store god knows when, and it sits proudly in a prime spot right next to the fireplace. I find it very interesting to read up on what was considered important just a scant 67 years ago, plus it’s simply a cool looking book.

I was leafing through Mrs. Post’s infinite wisdom this evening when I came across this passage under the subject of “Modern Man and Girl:”

“To every thoroughbred, money is like his toothbrush — it is a necessity, quite true! But it is neither an object for worship nor for display! One great thing that these past years of depression may do is to give us back our sense of intrinsic worth and our standards of culture, which were temporarily lost sight of in the rated-by-money era of the great inflation!”

This quote could be lifted out of a hundred modern day articles, yet comes from a 1942 book that also features an entire chapter on The Debutante. The notion that lean times can lead one to intrinsic worth is an idea that is core to simple living.

Some teachings are too classic to ever go out of style.

Now if I can just figure out all the complicated expectations for the 41-year-old debutante.

Katy Wolk-Stanley

“Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.”

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It’s no secret that I like a bargain. Free garden supplies, cut rate groceries, even my backyard solar clothes dryer.

I love it all.

But there are times when getting a bargain in the present means a financial burden in the long run.

Usually this phenomenon is relegated to poorly constructed goods, but my example is a bit different. My example is my free kittens.

But first I’m going to share the story of Kit-Kat the beautiful two-year-old kitty we adopted from The Humane Society last year. Kit-Kat came to us de-clawed and pissed off. Like the blind man whose powers of hearing became superhuman, this cat’s ability to defend herself by biting was beyond the expected. We were gentle with her, tried to respect her needs, but an unwarranted bruise-inducing chomp on my son’s arm while he slept was the last straw.

It broke our hearts, but Kit-Kat earned a return ticket to The Humane Society.

I decided our next cat would be a kitten, someone who would not come to us with mysterious aggressive tendencies.

But The Humane Society didn’t seem to ever have any kittens, and I started to scan through craigslist in search of the perfect addition to our family.

I finally found an ad for free kittens, two females, not even that far from the house.

Perfect.

Unlike a Humane Society cat, which comes spayed or neutered; fully vaccinated, identity chipped and with a certificate for a free veterinarian’s visit, these kittens came with nothing.

Let me correct myself, these cats came with round worms.

Gag.

Their first veterinary visit cost me an arm and a leg and they didn’t even get any vaccinations. Just a routine physical with a fecal test and subsequent medication. (The vet was kind enough to inform me that the medicine might make the kittens vomit, and that I might notice worms in the vomit. This was to be considered normal, nothing to worry about.)

Double gag.

So I now have Zelda and Hyena, unvaccinated de-wormed kittens as a result of my bargain hunting tendencies.

So yes, it turns out you can be too cheap.

Katy Wolk-Stanley

“Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.”

Have you ever gotten a bargain in the short term that cost big in the long run? Please share your stories in the comments section below.

P.S. I will be taking Zelda and Hyena for vaccinations and spaying.

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The following is a guest post by Leo Babauta of Zen Habits. Thank you very much to Leo and his policy of uncopywriting. 

Enjoy!

Katy Wolk-Stanley

“Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.”

 

Simplifying can sometimes be overwhelming. The amount of stuff you have in your life and the amount of things you have to do can be too big a mountain to tackle.

But you don’t have to simplify it all at once. Do one thing at a time, and take small steps. You’ll get there, and have fun doing it.

In fact, you can do little but important things today to start living the simple life.
I was criticized a few weeks ago when I published the 
Simple Living Manifesto: 72 Ideas to Simplify Your Life, because many people felt the list was too long. I heard this point, and this post is my response: just the 10 most important things.

And these are not 10 difficult things, but 10 simple things that you can do today. Not tomorrow, not next week, not next month. Today. Choose one and do it today. Tomorrow, choose another.

If you do these 10 things, you’ll have made great strides with little effort.

1. Make a short list. Take out a sheet of paper and fold it into a small square, perhaps 3×5 inches. Or take out an index card. Now make a short list of the 4-5 most important things in your life. What’s most important to you? What do you value most? What 4-5 things do you most want to do in your life? Simplifying starts with these priorities, as you are trying to make room in your life so you have more time for these things.

2. Drop 1 commitment. Think about all the things in your life that you’re committed to doing, and try to find one that you dread doing. Something that takes up time but doesn’t give you much value. Perhaps you’re on a team, or coaching something, or on a board or committee, or whatever. Something that you do each day or week or month that you don’t really want to do. Now take action today to drop that commitment. Call someone, send an email, telling the appropriate person or people that you just don’t have the time. You will feel relief. I’d recommend dropping all commitments that don’t contribute to your short list (from Item #1), but for today, just drop 1 commitment.

3. Purge a drawer. Or a shelf, or a countertop, or a corner of a room. Not an entire room or even an entire closet. Just one small area. You can use that small area as your base of simplicity, and then expand from there. Here’s how to purge: 1) empty everything from the drawer or shelf or corner into a pile. 2) From this pile, pick out only the most important things, the stuff you use and love. 3) Get rid of the rest. Right now. Trash it, or put it in your car to give away or donate. 4) Put the stuff you love and use back, in a neat and orderly manner.

4. Set limits. Read Haiku Productivity for more. Basically, you set limits for things you do regularly: email, RSS posts, tasks, feeds, items in your life, etc. And try to stick with the limits. Today, all you have to do is set limits for a few things in your life. Tomorrow, try to stick with them.

5. Simplify your to-do list. Take a look at your to-do list. If it’s more than 10 items long, you can probably simplify it a bit. Try to find at least a few items that can be eliminated, delegated, automated, outsourced, or ignored. Shorten the list. This is a good habit to do once a week.

6. Free up time. Simplifying your life in general is a way to free up time to do the stuff you want to do. Unfortunately, it can be hard to find time to even think about how to simplify your life. If that’s the case, free up at least 30 minutes a day for thinking about simplifying. Or alternatively, free up a weekend and think about it then. How can you free up 30 minutes a day? Just a few ideas: wake earlier, watch less TV, eat lunch at your desk, take a walk for lunch, disconnect from the Internet, do email only once today, shut off your phones, do 1 less thing each day.

7. Clear your desk. I can personally attest to the amazing feeling that a clean desk can give you. It’s such a simple thing to do, and yet it does so much for you. If your desk is covered with papers and notes and gadgets and office supplies, you might not be able to get this done today. But here are the basic steps: 1) Clear everything off your desk and put it in a pile (either in your inbox or on the floor). 2) Process the pile from top to bottom, one item at a time. Do not defer decisions on any item — deal with them immediately and quickly. 3) For each item, either file it immediately, route it to someone else, trash it, or note it on your to-do list (and put it in an “action” folder). If it’s a gadget or office supply, find a place for it in your desk drawers (or get rid of it). 4) Repeat until your pile is empty and your desk is clear. Be sure to get rid of any knick knacks. Your desk should have your computer, your inbox, perhaps a notepad, and maybe a family photo (but not many). Ahh, a clear desk! 5) From now on, put everything in your inbox, and at least once a day, process it in the same way as above.

8. Clear out your email inbox. This has the same psychological effect as a clear desk. Is your email inbox always full of read and unread messages? That’s because you’re delaying decisions on your emails. If you have 50, let’s say, or fewer emails in your inbox, you can process them all today. If you have hundreds, you should put them in a temporary folder and get to them one chunk at a time (do 20 per day or something). Here’s how you process your inbox to empty — including emails already in your inbox, and all future incoming emails: 1) process them top to bottom, one at a time, deciding and disposing of each one immediately. 2) Your choices are to delete, archive, respond immediately (and archive or delete), forward (and archive or delete), or mark it with a star (or something like that) and note it on your to-do list to respond to later (and archive). 3) Process each email like that until the inbox is empty. 4) Each time you check your email, process to empty. Ahh, an empty inbox!

9. Move slower. We rush through the day, from one task to another, from one appointment to another, until we collapse on the couch, exhausted, at the end of the day. Instead, simplify your life by doing less (see Items 1, 4 and 5) and doing them more slowly. Eat slowerdrive slower, walk slower, shower slower, work slower. Be more deliberate. Be present. This isn’t something you’re going to master today, but you can start practicing today.

10. Single-task. Instead of multi-tasking, do one thing at a time. Remove all distractions, resist any urge to check email or do some other habitual task like that while you’re doing the task at hand. Stick to that one task, until you’re done. It’ll make a huge difference in both your stress level and your productivity.

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Happy Mother's Day!

by Katy on May 9, 2009 · 4 comments

In the spirit of Mother’s Day I am going to watch a video with my kids instead of writing this evening.

Happy Mother’s Day!

Katy Wolk-Stanley

“Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.”

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Click here to read a lengthy NY Times article about some of the fun and frugal Portland offerings. It’s almost enough to get me off my duff and cycling around my hometown.

Almost.

Katy Wolk-Stanley

“Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.”

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I was coming home from the library last week and was thinking about how much I love Portland, Oregon. Sure it rains a lot, but that is tempered by beautiful lush gardens and a deeply green landscape.

I love our library system, distinct neighborhoods and awareness of green issues. I love our proximity to beaches and mountains; abundant thrift stores and independently owned business.

Portland is a great place to be from, and it’s a great place to live.

I have lived in Ohio, London, New Mexico, New York City and Chicago. But I came back to my hometown and have never regretted that decision.

Which brings me to the question:

Where do you live, and why do you love or not love it?

Please share your hometown in the comments section below. Let’s see how many cities, states, providences and countries there are in our Non-Consumer Advocate community!

Katy Wolk-Stanley

“Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.”

 

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Before

My day started innocently enough. The boys were rousted out of bed, fed, nagged, brushed and hustled off to school. I drank my morning tea and then drove over to my mother’s house to provide my signature airport shuttle service. (I can’t complain as I did receive a shoebox full of homemade chocolate chip cookies as payment.)

I was just rolling back into my neighborhood when I spied an arborist’s truck at a neighbor’s house. Sure enough, it had a wood-chipper attached at the rear.

Bingo.

The South side of my house consists of hard packed clay that gets all muddy and slippery when it rains. (And as I live in Oregon, this is an all too frequent occurrence.) I’ve been wanting to lay down mulch for years, but somehow have never got around to it. I know that arborists will often dump their mulch for free, and had even called a few companies in the past, but never had any luck.

Today was my day.

I parked the car and walked back to the neighbor’s house and asked the worker if there was any way he could dump a yard or so of mulch at my house. He looked dubious at first, but did come around quickly when he saw I was only a half-block away. 

And indeed he drove his truck over and raked out a yard or so of beautiful cedar wood chips into a pile in front of the house.

Cookies were distributed, and all appeared satisfied with the transaction.

I would estimate that it took twenty wheelbarrows loads to transport the mulch to the side yard, but since the it was very lightweight this was not a difficult task. I listened to an audio book from the library and the time flew by.

I am so happy with the results, and am looking forward to not becoming a muddy mess every time I take out the compost or simply wish to enter my beautiful back yard.

I love not only that the mulch was free, (and smells unbelievably terrific) but that it’s from a tree a half block away. Also, had I been a full-time worker, I wouldn’t have been home to take advantage of this opportunity. I certainly wouldn’t have been able to take my mother to the airport, and there would have been no thank you cookies.

And for that, I’m happy to live frugally, simply and frankly, in a home with a no longer slippery South side yard.

Do you practice frugal gardening? Please share your ideas in the comments section below.

Katy Wolk-Stanley

“Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.”

 

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After

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