I although I am the last person on earth who should be labeled a perfectionist, I still find myself holding back in life because my inner Katy still craves that blue ribbon.
“Look at me, my house is always clean, my kids are straight-A students, my blog publishes daily and I’m the prettiest mom in Mom-Land!”
I’m trying to be better about giving time and attention to my friendships. I have a tendency to hole up in the house, and if I’m not careful I can easily go days without any outside interaction. So now that the kids are back into their school routines, I’m working to be deliberate about arranging face-to-face get togethers with my friends.
I spent my morning getting the boys ready for school, and was kind of craving an adult play date. I e-mailed my friend Heather, asking if she had time to get together for a coffee. (Heather is the mother of 14-month-old twin boys, so it’s safe to say that our daily routines require planning if we’re to ever see one another.) Luckily, she quickly replied saying I should come right on over. However I had just dropped the boys at school, and wasn’t quite in full ready-to-meet-the-world mode.
But here’s where my perfection issues come into play. My kitchen was full of dirty dishes, my blog was unwritten; and I had yet to shower, brush my teeth or even put on a bra. My first inclination was to spend the hour or so it would take to address my morning tasks. Because you know, yuck.
Did I take care of all these personal tasks in order to head out with a fully checked-off to-do list?
I drove my unkempt self across town and rejuvenated my spirit with a satisfying three hour chat/sweet baby session.
And it was perfectly imperfect.
If you’re waiting for perfection before doing what really matters in life, then you’re needlessly holding yourself back. Having a perfectly tidy home and an immaculate appearance are all well and good in theory, but if the lack of either is keeping you from being a full participant in your own life, then something is seriously off balance.
So go ahead and embrace your imperfections. Perfection was always a fallacy anyway.
Do you find that you hesitate to do things because you’re trying to do everything perfectly? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below.
P.S. I did use Heather’s toothpaste to finger-brush my teeth, as I didn’t want her to pass out.
“Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without.”